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At a weekend party for kids, I overheard this interesting conversation between two mothers.
|Tara – ‘Madhu, I hope the next set of tests for these kids is not coming up too soon! I had to travel to Australia on work and haven’t been able to teach Maya for over two weeks.’|
Madhu – ‘Wow Tara, it’s so nice that you get a chance to travel. Must be so interesting right, to learn about the latest trends and interact with senior folks with varied perspectives?’
Tara – ‘Work is great Madhu! But it’s hectic. On school days I sit down to help Maya with studies only at 8:00 p.m., by which time we are both exhausted. Maya feels bad that I can’t pick her up after school as the other mothers do. In fact, she hardly gets invited to playdates because I don’t meet the other moms regularly. But it’s only when her grades dip that I wonder if I should quit despite work being good.’
Madhu – ‘Don’t worry Tara, these kids grow up so fast. Soon they won’t even want us in the same room as them. Quitting may not even make sense. You are doing so well for yourself. Seeing you manage both work and home, I feel I shouldn’t have given up my career.’
Tara – ‘Sweet of you to say so Madhu. But, honestly, I could never do what you have done for your children. Hat’s off to you!’
Would you think this conversation between Tara and Madhu is uncommon?
Actually, it isn’t.
On the contrary, ‘to work or not to work’ is a furiously discussed topic among women. And naturally so, considering that working outside the home brings women a twin share of advantages and disadvantages, deeply intensifying as they progress to become working mothers.
Let’s take a look at the pros and cons of a career for women like Tara:
The pro’s of working
The con’s of working
The rising cost of motherhood makes the decision of ‘working’ progressively more complex given its hefty pros and cons.
Clearly, the decision of ‘working’ or ‘staying at home’ is a personal choice women make after great deliberation. Irrespective of what they choose, their contribution to their children, families, and society is undeniable.
Here’s acknowledging all women for the complex, bitter-sweet choices they make!